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Men come to see a counsellor for different reasons
Emotions or circumstances, whichever it is – let’s start talking
Struggling with emotions
It’s strange that after tens of thousands of years of evolution, men are still trying to understand the meaning of our emotions. We often become confused by the emotional signals we receive, and it becomes even more complicated when we lack the words to describe what we are experiencing.
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Life is unpredictable, and we all face challenges. The Grounded Counselling approach provides a supportive, masculine, environment in which to help men regain control, move forward and manage problems healthily in the future.
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To thrive and grow beyond our perceived potential, we need diverse skills beyond just surviving daily life.
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It’s often said “men struggle with emotions.”
Rubbish.
Workplace challenges
Many men face challenges at home and work without speaking up, believing they must tackle everything alone. It’s important to recognise that seeking support doesn’t signify failure. By openly addressing career setbacks, workplace bullying, and the difficulties of retirement or redundancy, they can prevent bigger issues from arising and pave the way for a brighter future.
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When life seems pointless
Without meaning or purpose our life seems pointless. We need something o strive for, something to believe in or we begin to fill the gap in our life with vacuous activities, different forms of addiction (drink, drugs, games, work, sports, clubbing, or other single issues)
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escaping Depression
Untreated depression poses a significant threat, both metaphorically and literally. It is a relentless bully that ignores your well-being. To overcome it, we need to understand depression and take decisive action to escape its despair and pain. Prioritising your mental health is essential.
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Coping with expectations
The expectations of others plays a massive role in most of our lives. When we struggle to live live up to those expectations (from family, partner, parents, colleagues, or even our selves) we tend to beat ourselves up and crash.
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Men often do not learn about emotions as fully as women, which results in a limited understanding of feelings. They typically recognize and express only those emotions they have been taught (and which are reinforced by society), feelings like anger, guilt, shame, and jealousy.
Subtler feelings are often discouraged from boyhood, with phrases like, “big boys don’t cry!” This creates confusion when encountering other emotions. Rather than facing these feelings, many men choose to ignore them, leading to more significant challenges ahead.
By understanding our emotions better, we can empower ourselves to manage them effectively and embrace a broader range of feelings beyond anger, shame, or jealousy.
Learn MoreDealing with life events
Counselling with men often begins with what’s happening and exploring events, circumstances, and situations.
Managing Anger
So many men are ‘sent’ to see me, with an ultimatum, to sort out their anger issues. But, what if it is isn’t really anger that is the problem at all. What if it is a sense of frustration at events or people. Manager the frustration and you manage the anger.
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Chronic Pain
Struggling with long-term (chronic) pain, can hurt us emotionally as well as physically. The problem is that many men, refuse to talk about their pain, thinking it is a sign of weakness. The real weakness is lashing out at those around, physically or verbally, instead of talking.
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Surviving Divorce
Divorce is not something any of us expect to happen, but when it happens all sorts of emotions flood to the surface. If your lucky the divorce goes smoothly, if you’re not all hell breaks loose. Often those ‘dogs of war’ hit us at deeply emotional levels.
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Coping with Work Changes
Redundancy, retirement, reduced hours, workplace bullying can all take their toll on us emotionally. Changing work situations can leave us feeling a sense of loss, almost grief-like, or angry, frustrated and with a sense of failure.
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Events and life changes affect all of us. But the man-rules mean we men must keep quiet about them, deal with them and move on. Easier said than done! It is easy to get overwhelmed or, more usual, just plain lost and stuck.
That’s where online counselling can help. We get you unstuck, help you find a new direction – or at least find a way to cut through the crap that is hurting you.
We may not be able to change the environment or event but we can help you change the way you look at it: changing roles at home as the kids grow up, the pressure of relationships, or just to stop feeling that life is pointless. Let’s start talking.
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